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Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 03 Aug 2022, 10:12am
by Flex
WestwayKid wrote:
02 Aug 2022, 8:01pm
Even after nearly 5 years as a member of this group... it's meaningful to me that when I've got something to say about what I'm going through that I think I want to share with you lot. I'm not the first person to mention this, but we've actually got something pretty damned special here.
:cool:

Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 03 Aug 2022, 12:31pm
by JennyB
WestwayKid wrote:
02 Aug 2022, 8:01pm
Even after nearly 5 years as a member of this group... it's meaningful to me that when I've got something to say about what I'm going through that I think I want to share with you lot. I'm not the first person to mention this, but we've actually got something pretty damned special here.
We really do.

Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 03 Aug 2022, 2:17pm
by eumaas
I stand by Clashy's careful assessment of our community. :shifty:

Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 03 Aug 2022, 2:29pm
by Dr. Medulla
eumaas wrote:
03 Aug 2022, 2:17pm
I stand by Clashy's careful assessment of our community. :shifty:
I hope his hedge fund is beating quarterly expectations.

Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 23 Aug 2022, 12:20am
by x3em
WestwayKid wrote:
02 Aug 2022, 8:01pm
Even after nearly 5 years as a member of this group... it's meaningful to me that when I've got something to say about what I'm going through that I think I want to share with you lot. I'm not the first person to mention this, but we've actually got something pretty damned special here.
Yeah, it is great and definitely a unique place. I've been drifting in and out here for... I don't even know for sure tbh. 06~ish maybe? 16 years! time certainly flies. I was a more active poster on the old board before the big crash. I usually come by for a fix of any new releases and other news, but always end up staying for the many interesting (and sometimes mind-numbing) threads on everything from heaven to hell. And yeah, whenever I have been going through stuff I've leaned in a bit more. It always feels familiar and I appreciate you all.

Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 21 Sep 2022, 5:23pm
by BitterTom
I really regret pushing this place out of my life. Yeah, it's a Clash forum but it's so much more than that, it's friends and a safe place. After the breakup with the ex, I've made some poor, yet blinkered decisions in my life and it's mashed my head. I'm having to sell the house and find somewhere within budget which is tough on my own, I'm stressed to hell, not eating properly, losing 4 stone, and to be completely honest fucking lonely, praying for time with my daughters or work so I can be with family and friends. I hate time at home at the moment and I know the move will do me good but I regret not staying on here, venting, bending ears until you're so sick of my drama. You're good people who've listened to my shit before and would do time and time again.

Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 21 Sep 2022, 5:35pm
by Marky Dread
BitterTom wrote:
21 Sep 2022, 5:23pm
I really regret pushing this place out of my life. Yeah, it's a Clash forum but it's so much more than that, it's friends and a safe place. After the breakup with the ex, I've made some poor, yet blinkered decisions in my life and it's mashed my head. I'm having to sell the house and find somewhere within budget which is tough on my own, I'm stressed to hell, not eating properly, losing 4 stone, and to be completely honest fucking lonely, praying for time with my daughters or work so I can be with family and friends. I hate time at home at the moment and I know the move will do me good but I regret not staying on here, venting, bending ears until you're so sick of my drama. You're good people who've listened to my shit before and would do time and time again.
I've been where you are Tom. A couple of times and for all the great caring advice genuine friends will give you the only person that's important right now is you. You will get through it as hard as it is. You will realise that it happens to thousands of people. Regards your daughters they will always love you and you'll always be there for them. Go easy on yourself mate. And anytime you need to vent feel free that's what we're here for.

Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 21 Sep 2022, 5:39pm
by WestwayKid
BitterTom wrote:
21 Sep 2022, 5:23pm
I really regret pushing this place out of my life. Yeah, it's a Clash forum but it's so much more than that, it's friends and a safe place. After the breakup with the ex, I've made some poor, yet blinkered decisions in my life and it's mashed my head. I'm having to sell the house and find somewhere within budget which is tough on my own, I'm stressed to hell, not eating properly, losing 4 stone, and to be completely honest fucking lonely, praying for time with my daughters or work so I can be with family and friends. I hate time at home at the moment and I know the move will do me good but I regret not staying on here, venting, bending ears until you're so sick of my drama. You're good people who've listened to my shit before and would do time and time again.
Sorry to hear this, Tom. Like Marky, I've also been there. For me, it was following my divorce in late 2015. It exploded my life in ways I could never have imagined. Heck, it's still messing things up, but life does indeed go on. I know that might seem like a small comfort right now, but it's true. It goes on and it gets better.

Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 21 Sep 2022, 5:56pm
by Dr. Medulla
I haven't gone thru what you're dealing with, Tom, but I'll say that you should listen to Marky and WWK, who know where you're coming from. They've made it thru back to happiness and so will you. Between now and then and afterward, we're here as much as you want us to be.

Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 21 Sep 2022, 5:59pm
by revbob
BitterTom wrote:
21 Sep 2022, 5:23pm
I really regret pushing this place out of my life. Yeah, it's a Clash forum but it's so much more than that, it's friends and a safe place. After the breakup with the ex, I've made some poor, yet blinkered decisions in my life and it's mashed my head. I'm having to sell the house and find somewhere within budget which is tough on my own, I'm stressed to hell, not eating properly, losing 4 stone, and to be completely honest fucking lonely, praying for time with my daughters or work so I can be with family and friends. I hate time at home at the moment and I know the move will do me good but I regret not staying on here, venting, bending ears until you're so sick of my drama. You're good people who've listened to my shit before and would do time and time again.
Marky pretty well covered things in his post. Cut yourself some slack, you're a good person and we're here if needed.

Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 21 Sep 2022, 6:06pm
by gkbill
Hello Tom,

You've been through a lot. You may think about your issues but I think of your strength - you're dealing with some incredibly tough issues, but you're dealing with them. Rely on your strength (the old cliché "Tough times don't last, tough people last" is a cliché but it's nevertheless true). You're a good person and that's a hell of a foundation to build on.

Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 21 Sep 2022, 6:08pm
by Flex
Total solidarity from me and us, pal. Welcome back.

Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 21 Sep 2022, 10:21pm
by JennyB
Glad you are here, Tom.

Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 22 Sep 2022, 9:26am
by Sparky
BitterTom wrote:
21 Sep 2022, 5:23pm
I really regret pushing this place out of my life. Yeah, it's a Clash forum but it's so much more than that, it's friends and a safe place. After the breakup with the ex, I've made some poor, yet blinkered decisions in my life and it's mashed my head. I'm having to sell the house and find somewhere within budget which is tough on my own, I'm stressed to hell, not eating properly, losing 4 stone, and to be completely honest fucking lonely, praying for time with my daughters or work so I can be with family and friends. I hate time at home at the moment and I know the move will do me good but I regret not staying on here, venting, bending ears until you're so sick of my drama. You're good people who've listened to my shit before and would do time and time again.
Tom, I’m sorry to hear about the changes in your life, but I’m glad you feel safe enough here to share it with everyone. I speak from experience when I say “this too shall pass”, talking about our challenges with others is therapeutic. Please don’t despair or beat yourself up, with time everything will work it’s self out.

Re: The IMCT observations thread

Posted: 22 Sep 2022, 10:40am
by matedog
Happy to have you back and I'm really sorry to hear about all the shit going on in your life. Feel free to use this space to vent about your shit, you'll always find sympathetic ears/eyes. Or just use it for a break from life where you can make fun of Heston like the rest of us.