Cheers mate.101Walterton wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 7:19amGood on you Marky Ashley is going to need all the support she can get and that starts at home. As others have said society, thankfully, is more understanding today.Marky Dread wrote: ↑18 Apr 2019, 8:16pmWell I had two sons and their births were magical. I was lucky with my first son Luke who adores The Clash so no Panic! at the Disco for me. But it's not all plain sailing either my second son Ashley is soon to become my daughter and is having hormone therapy for the change. I'm completely supportive of him/her and will always love my kids unconditionally. It's just gonna be a whole new world for my second offspring that's bound to bring about it's own set of problems and concerns. But I'll always be here for them both regardless.Heston wrote: ↑18 Apr 2019, 6:44pmI always loved other people's kids but never wanted one myself, didn't fancy the responsibility or the worry. I did become a Dad eventually (unplanned at the age of 37) but when it happened it was the best thing that ever happened to me. It's as if something biological happens to you when you see that baby and your brain starts working in a different way. No regrets whatsoever but I can totally see where people are coming from in not wanting kids. At least you don't get subjected to Panic! at the Disco every day in the car. I want to kill that band.
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I'll echo what others have said, good for Ashley and good on ya, Markey.
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Thanks mate.
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It's certainly not a magical wonderland. And it's certainly a hell of a lot easier having only one, like I do. And I loathe people who begrudge anyone for not wanting kids.BostonBeaneater wrote: ↑18 Apr 2019, 4:57pmI'm glad you say that. Half my friends with kids say what you say while the other half describe it like a magical wonderland. Take a guess which one's are better parents? I can see the good parts of it and sometimes do regret not having the experience but for the love of god be honest about it.
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This is what amazing parenting looks like. I don't mean to sound trite, but I wish all trans kids had parents like you. You are realistic but you are accepting, and that kind of parenting saves lives.Marky Dread wrote: ↑18 Apr 2019, 8:16pmWell I had two sons and their births were magical. I was lucky with my first son Luke who adores The Clash so no Panic! at the Disco for me. But it's not all plain sailing either my second son Ashley is soon to become my daughter and is having hormone therapy for the change. I'm completely supportive of him/her and will always love my kids unconditionally. It's just gonna be a whole new world for my second offspring that's bound to bring about it's own set of problems and concerns. But I'll always be here for them both regardless.Heston wrote: ↑18 Apr 2019, 6:44pmI always loved other people's kids but never wanted one myself, didn't fancy the responsibility or the worry. I did become a Dad eventually (unplanned at the age of 37) but when it happened it was the best thing that ever happened to me. It's as if something biological happens to you when you see that baby and your brain starts working in a different way. No regrets whatsoever but I can totally see where people are coming from in not wanting kids. At least you don't get subjected to Panic! at the Disco every day in the car. I want to kill that band.
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As a woman who is child-free by choice, I've had my share of shaming from other women for my decision. I've never told anyone the real reason I made this choice, but "being selfish" wasn't one of them, whatever that means anyway. Most women who were rude enough to approach the subject with me told me I would regret it when I'm older. I'm older, and well, so far, so good.matedog wrote: ↑18 Apr 2019, 3:45pmHaving a kid now, I would fault no one for not having kids. It sucks. Like it's fun and great and all, but it sucks.BostonBeaneater wrote: ↑18 Apr 2019, 2:18pmHaving embraced a child-free life it really annoys me when people seem to pity my wife and I for not having children. I remind them that I take at least two week long vacations a year, sleep until 10AM most weekend days, and that our place is largely free of plastic things in primary colors.
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I have a niece/nephew who is trans (I'm still trying to figure out how to word this properly) and my brother hasn't handled it well, probably because of his born-again attitude. It's refreshing to read this. It makes me want to hug you. *sniff* I know from my nephew that that support means more than anyone will ever know.Marky Dread wrote: ↑18 Apr 2019, 8:16pmWell I had two sons and their births were magical. I was lucky with my first son Luke who adores The Clash so no Panic! at the Disco for me. But it's not all plain sailing either my second son Ashley is soon to become my daughter and is having hormone therapy for the change. I'm completely supportive of him/her and will always love my kids unconditionally. It's just gonna be a whole new world for my second offspring that's bound to bring about it's own set of problems and concerns. But I'll always be here for them both regardless.Heston wrote: ↑18 Apr 2019, 6:44pmI always loved other people's kids but never wanted one myself, didn't fancy the responsibility or the worry. I did become a Dad eventually (unplanned at the age of 37) but when it happened it was the best thing that ever happened to me. It's as if something biological happens to you when you see that baby and your brain starts working in a different way. No regrets whatsoever but I can totally see where people are coming from in not wanting kids. At least you don't get subjected to Panic! at the Disco every day in the car. I want to kill that band.
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What better resson for having a kid is fear of future regret?
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Right?! I wanted to ask them if they only had kids so the kids would take care of them when they got older.Dr. Medulla wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:07amWhat better resson for having a kid is fear of future regret?
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My mother told me that my dad only wanted kids so that he'd feel/look more like a man. He really wasn't interested in being a dad once the kids were born. The first four kids were born in about a seven-year span, then my next oldest sister and I were accidents well after the eldest group. My mother told him that he was being given a second chance to actually be a dad, but, nope, he limited himself to being a provider (and he was a good one), but raising kids was left to her.Mimi wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:10amRight?! I wanted to ask them if they only had kids so the kids would take care of them when they got older.Dr. Medulla wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:07amWhat better resson for having a kid is fear of future regret?
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That generation of men.Dr. Medulla wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:34amMy mother told me that my dad only wanted kids so that he'd feel/look more like a man. He really wasn't interested in being a dad once the kids were born. The first four kids were born in about a seven-year span, then my next oldest sister and I were accidents well after the eldest group. My mother told him that he was being given a second chance to actually be a dad, but, nope, he limited himself to being a provider (and he was a good one), but raising kids was left to her.Mimi wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:10amRight?! I wanted to ask them if they only had kids so the kids would take care of them when they got older.Dr. Medulla wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:07amWhat better resson for having a kid is fear of future regret?
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Ali’s father actually told her if he had it to do again, he would’ve never had kids and spent more time sailing.Mimi wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:36amThat generation of men.Dr. Medulla wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:34amMy mother told me that my dad only wanted kids so that he'd feel/look more like a man. He really wasn't interested in being a dad once the kids were born. The first four kids were born in about a seven-year span, then my next oldest sister and I were accidents well after the eldest group. My mother told him that he was being given a second chance to actually be a dad, but, nope, he limited himself to being a provider (and he was a good one), but raising kids was left to her.Mimi wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:10amRight?! I wanted to ask them if they only had kids so the kids would take care of them when they got older.Dr. Medulla wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:07amWhat better resson for having a kid is fear of future regret?
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Yes and no. My parents were that Great Depression / World War II generation, but in the 1950s—when the first batch of kids came along—attitudes toward parenting changed considerably, with fathers expected to take part in household chores and develop closer relationships with their kids. My dad, tho, a good emotionally confined Scandinavian, kept all his kids at an arm's length and definitely did no housework. He always seemed to be one full generation behind his cohort.Mimi wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:36amThat generation of men.Dr. Medulla wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:34amMy mother told me that my dad only wanted kids so that he'd feel/look more like a man. He really wasn't interested in being a dad once the kids were born. The first four kids were born in about a seven-year span, then my next oldest sister and I were accidents well after the eldest group. My mother told him that he was being given a second chance to actually be a dad, but, nope, he limited himself to being a provider (and he was a good one), but raising kids was left to her.Mimi wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:10amRight?! I wanted to ask them if they only had kids so the kids would take care of them when they got older.Dr. Medulla wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:07amWhat better resson for having a kid is fear of future regret?
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Ouch!Wolter wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:47amAli’s father actually told her if he had it to do again, he would’ve never had kids and spent more time sailing.Mimi wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:36amThat generation of men.Dr. Medulla wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:34amMy mother told me that my dad only wanted kids so that he'd feel/look more like a man. He really wasn't interested in being a dad once the kids were born. The first four kids were born in about a seven-year span, then my next oldest sister and I were accidents well after the eldest group. My mother told him that he was being given a second chance to actually be a dad, but, nope, he limited himself to being a provider (and he was a good one), but raising kids was left to her.Mimi wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:10amRight?! I wanted to ask them if they only had kids so the kids would take care of them when they got older.Dr. Medulla wrote: ↑19 Apr 2019, 10:07am
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Shouldn't come as a surprise that the primary reason why I didn't want kids was a fear that I'd be as lousy a father as I had, and I didn't want that on my conscience.
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